I've long heard that phrase about teaching others how to treat us too, and even knew I was doing it while in the midst of it.
I had heard it, but it never made sense to me. I couldn't fathom that my reactions were allowing him to treat me the way he did. That by giving in and not addressing issues I was allowing him to become a bully. Ironically, when I started to stand up for myself in little bits, the marriage got worse because he couldn't deal with it.
"You can't stop the waves, but you can learn to surf." Jon Kabat-Zinn
