First Piecing Thread

[Freckle6]

Can you ask her what are some things you do that make her feel pressured or what you could do to not make her not feel pressured? Most of it is probably built up in her mind and not because of you, but that doesn't make her feelings any less real. I can kind of relate to the pressuring thing from years back. With my H, and probably with most men, something as minor as a hug could lead to sex, if I responded the right way. I'm assuming most men are the same and if you are affectionate to your W and she responds enthusiastically, you're game, right? Even if that's not what you were going for to begin with. Well, when the woman is feeling fragile or unsure or whatever in the R, it starts to feel like the H is only initiating those affections in the hopes that he might strike gold X% of the time and it makes all affection start to feel tainted with pressure and expectations which may or may not be there in reality.

Do you think it might help if you took sex off the table for a period of time (letting her know that) and then spent that time focusing on her love language(s) and being affectionate and cuddly to show her, and maybe "reset" her perceptions that your affection doesn't have any strings attached.