1.Told H I was taking kids to my parents for xmas dinner. We could do present opening together in the morning with kids and then I would give him a few hours in early afternoon with the kids alone.
2.Told him he needs to talk to kids with age appropriate description of our situation. Told him he could run it by me first and that I wanted to be there when he did it.
3.Told him that I don't want him around upstairs – it makes me uncomfortable. I want him out of the house. He said when he comes home that he will come thru garage and won't come up until after kids go to bed. Not sure really how that will work when kids hear him downstairs . Meet with L tomorrow so I will know more about where I stand on him not leaving the house.
4.H's b-day is less than 3 weeks. Told him he would have the day with the kids and I will not be part of his bday plans.
5.Finally seeing some remorse and emotion from H.
6.H has to work early Sat at job site where OW works. He told me I was welcome to come with him.
And I have been thinking about going to counseling.
Not feeling like I am in a good place but all your support/guidance has helped me be more in control and I don't feel totally helpless. Thanks.
