Deployed Soldier/Father needs your help

[SoldierDad]

Coach,
I am trying to detach. I struggle at times, especially when I find out anything new, or some thing that hurts me. I know I shouldn't let HER behavior hurt ME, but I haven't gotten to that point yet-I am working on it.

It's like I am obsessed with what she is doing/who she is with/where she has been/where she is going--it is very controlling of me, I gotta work on this really hard-again detaching will help.

Coach, how does someone forgive another for what my W has done? I mean-multiple partners, lying, nasty words towards me-how do I forgive that? I feel like she did all of this just to hurt me, to "show" me.

I have SO much work to do for myself and my boys.