i just want to back off...if he feels suffocated and trapped, and those are his reasons for wanting d, that would be where to start right?
YEP. That and GAL (not now because of your dad)
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because of my dad he has been around a lot, not sure if that is good or bad...i havent had to ask him though. he has just stepped up.
I'm taking this as a very reassuring sign. Do you see the dynamic here? Your H knows he is needed and this is something he CAN do something about. This is why I told you earlier... make him FEEL useful.
Men are fixers. This is what we do. We want to FIX things. That's why I said start with small tasks. Gradually build them up to the point where his self-confidence is where he can feel capable of working on the M.
