Lost, I'm still here. I'm sorry, my mind has been jumping all over the show. I haven't been able to offer "in depth" advice to almost anyone -- just tactical advice.
I'm glad to read that he is stepping up to his duties. That is a GOOD sign.
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I'm not so sure as to why but i have not had such an empty feeling the past 2 days...good or bad???
This is good. His willingness to help out during this tough time is reassuring.
Right now you have a valid excuse (your Dad) Keep the small favors up afterwards. It is key that you balance this out so he doesn't get the impression that he is being used.
Your 180's are for you. I'm not sure about the NC. This depends on how long you have been doing that. Avoid ALL relationship talk. If he initiates it, your response is, "I'm not in the mood to talk about US. Let's have that talk some other time." You drop the subject. The more you drop it or avoid it, my guess it that the more he's going to pursue it. This is long-term. He might wait a week to two weeks before he raises it again.
Your task at the moment is to help him feel useful, appreciated and respected. NOT LOVED. While at the same time hiding all negative triggers in your own behavior. This is why you GAL and do 180's... for you. To make yourself happy and to shine. Men are like magpies...they're attracted to shiny objects.
