Deployed Soldier/Father needs your help

[TrentC]

I want to understand what she is doing, I want to know why she is doing it.

She may never be able to tell you. If she can, it won't be for a while.

I DO deserve better, so then why do I still feel the way I feel about her? Why would I want someone back-that has done all of this to me?

You do deserve better; that can also mean that you deserve better behavior than your wife is showing, not necessarily that you deserve a better person.

Would you stop loving your son if he was a 14-year-old mouthy punk? Of course not. You can disapprove of a person's actions and still love them.

Can I really just accept that it was a "fog"?

Is it possible for her to come back? I know that can't be answered, but is my W's behavior the same as others on here?

Every situation is different, but I have seen one of the WAWs on here acknowledge the effects of the fog. So it is possible.