Thank you all for your advice, it helps to much to know that I am not alone. At work now so can't look at those threads, but thanks so much for the link. I'll try to see them later this week.
Thank you thank you thank you!
Me - 38 Husband - 40 MLC! Together 12 years Married 11 years Still the love of my life Forever only lasted 10 years before his MLC and affair