First Piecing Thread

[Hope4us]

I've tried Pearl. I even told her I'd pick her up some that were the same style, just not the same color and I get the "that's stupid" response.

Yes, even though she's figuring this out, she still doesn't get some things. And of course, when you've been thru what we've all been thru, it makes you wonder. And that is the hard part about Piecing. You have to give your spouse a certain amount of trust, even when you're still not in a very trusting mode, if that makes sense.

Like last night. W and I went out for dinner, had a really nice evening. About 10:15, I told her I was going to bed and asked if she wanted to join me. She said she'd be up in a minute after she had a smoke. Now I know she's PMS'ing and wouldn't be in the mood for , but I really wanted to just snuggle. So an hour and a half later she comes to bed. I said "that must have been some smoke" and she replied "I didn't even go out". So I asked her why she didn't come to bed and she replied that she feels like I'm pressuring her.

And I don't know what I've done to pressure her. If anything, I've been the anti-pressure person of the year. For 2 years as a matter of fact. So is it really me or is it her still dealing with her demons?

I tried to talk to her and ask why she feels pressured and she replied that she just feels like every time we go to bed I want sex. I said to her that that offends me and makes me feel like I'm some sort of deviant because I want to be close to my wife. And I just don't get where she could feel that from. We typically only ML once a week, maybe twice. Yes, I want it more than that, but I've been so careful to not make her feel like that's all I want, because it's not. But she has it in her head that it is.

She said "I don't think you're a deviant, I just don't feel sexy". So there it is....again. I've heard that from her at least 3 times in the last few months. So what is it? Guilt? How can I help her get past that guilt when it's in the paper and on the news every single day?

Stuff to ponder.