Deployed Soldier/Father needs your help

[Deep]

SD. It's tough. And you're going to have days like these for a while.

GIMA put across some pointers, and while I may not agree 100% with the reasoning, they are valid.

You don't let your W go from guy to guy. That's her choice, her actions. Yes, it's not something she should be doing. She should be loving and respecting you. She's not right now, and although it sucks, you'll have to deal with it. Trying to own her decisions is adding to your pain.

We may know that what she is doing is not "right", but it is up to her to one day conclude that her actions are not right FOR HER. She's focused on her perceived needs right now, you can think of her as a hurt animal at times, looking for anything to ease the pain.

You obviously still love her deeply - that's nothing to be ashamed of or sorry for no matter how this turns out; and your kids obviously love you. I'll like to add this bit of Eastern wisdom into the mix of Christian quotes you find often here:

"To love someone deeply gives you strength. Being loved by someone deeply gives you courage. "

Lao Tzu

Strength and courage. Many here are praying for you.