Deployed Soldier/Father needs your help

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I want to understand what she is doing, I want to know why she is doing it.

SD as GIMA said, you may never know the answer to this. She may not know the answer to this. It's the FOG. It's the PEA's. It's the alien she's been replaced with.

It's hard to accept but there may not be an answer. Just accept it is what it is.

I DO deserve better, so then why do I still feel the way I feel about her?

Withdrawal. You are withdrawing from your R just as an addict does. It's all normal. You also cannot switch your feeling off after you have been with somebody for so long. You are not in the FOG, she is.

You're a human being.

Why would I want someone back-that has done all of this to me?

That is a question you need to put to sleep for another day when you are in the right frame of mind to answer it. One day you will be able to answer this question and you will then know how far you've come.

Can I really just accept that it was a "fog"?

That again is your choice. I would say you NEED to accept it for your health.

Is it possible for her to come back? I know that can't be answered, but is my W's behavior the same as others on here?

Yep. It's script. You're early days in this. She may come back. The question is, if she does, will you want her back.

Many LBS's after working on themselves end up being WAS's as they suddenly realise they want a better life and that is not with WAS.

What, if anything, is going to wake her from the "fog"?

She will wake up herself. You GALing, doing 180's and working on your self will help.