Well, W's birthday is today. And this is hard for me to act as if we are already D'd and let EVRYTHING (presents, cake and happy birthdays) be from the kids and not me. I know this is what I have to do and that it is tough love. It just feels strange. I have NEVER forgotten a birthday, anniversary or other special occasion.
So, this morning, I had the kids wish her a happy birthday. I did not. Yesterday evening, I took the kids and let them pick out a present for W. This will be from the kids, not me. The kids want to take W out to dinner tonight. If the kids knew we are heading for D, I would not go, but they don't, so I will go. Not to be there would be VERY unusual to the kids.
I know this is the right thing to do. And the fact that it is hard tells me that.
