My W told me almost this very thing several weekends ago. She said that she had to leave to get away from the guilt. I agree that once her A is finally over and the fog clears, having to process all that guilt will be VERY difficult.
Do you not feel that the fear of having to deal with the guilt will actually keep them in the A longer?
Quite possibly. My response to her comment was that "The reason you felt guilt was because you were continuing a R with OM behind my back after telling me you had cut off contact with him." I'm sure that truth dart hit home, and I'm sure that her guilt is probably one factor that keeps her from cutting it off and returning to her family. Shame and pride don't mix well. I know it would require her to swallow a lot of pride to admit to me (or even herself) the damage she has done to me and S7 by continuing this R with OM. It's easier for her right now to simply run away from the guilt and shame.
Me 45 WAW 36 S8 T 15 M 12 Multiple PA's since 6/07 W moved out 10/25/09 I filed D 12/29/09 Sitch
