Folks, I don't know what to do with her anymore. I have done EVERYTHING I was supposed to do. It just seems that she is just...gone.
. . . and she WILL be, SD, for quite some time to come. Months. You need to come to grips with that. It is PHYSIOLOGICAL at this point -- her brain is awash with endorphines -- PEAs -- and even if she made the intellectual decision TODAY to end it with him, and was full of remorse and came running back to you, repentant, it would STILL take 2-3 weeks of HARD withdrawal, followed by up to 6 to 18 months to fully withdraw.
That just IS right now, and yeah it sukks, and yeah, it's totally unfair.
Put more simply, SHE IS NOT HERSELF. I found it helps to think of her as an addict, which she is -- affairs are HIGHLY addictive. It is what made an intelligent, otherwise sane female astronaut drive from Texas to Florida WEARING AN ADULT DIAPER, so she wouldn't have to make bathroom stops, so she could come "avenge her man" more quickly.
