WAW wants to get togeather?

[wifeleft2009]

yeah thursday she was doing her best to be a PITA

(even though she got the kids tuesday night at 5:45 so she had them more than what the document said..)


She said she could not bring the kids back on friday because her mom had to work early in the morning and she said thursday they were having dinner served at her grandma's at 4:30 ... (ok? well I know from the past we always went there mid after noon until then)
so I asked if 2 hours after dinner was served was enough time? and asked if 7:00 would work for her to meet me in town (its about a 20-30 min drive here) she went off on saying i was taking from her day ect ect.. she was just going on and on..
(I don't get this because for one it says for that day and our exchanges are at 5:00 for the weekends)

anyway she just kept going on how she will bring this up in court and that up and how i should meet her at her county office (which is out of her way too 15 min. in the wrong direction! all because she wants to drop them off at my house and I wont let her the county office is a few min faster for her anyway) so long story short I told her to leave me alone! LOL she is such a PITA and the games she plays ya and now she claims to be this church going person and she wants me to meet her half way on wed nights so she can take the kids... in all honesty I can't belive she does not burst into flames walking into the church

[bluerain]

WL, as long as she stays away from that holy water! Make sure that you document your willingness to accomodate her dinner, and her inflexibilty. Im glad that now shes being a pain, doesnt it make detaching easier?

[wifeleft2009]

yep it makes it much easier to detach! yep I have the e-mails still I just can't belive what a POS she is now days def not the woman I married... (or at least i hope its not the same woman!!!)

I cant help but get my hopes up a little with the news of the WARR. for her but it's not sighned by the judge yet and ive been promised for so long they would get her Im still very unsure when it will really happen

[wifeleft2009]

well the kids are starting to get upset at least D8 the kids were not picking up the other night and i yelled at them and told them to pick up! well later I sat D8 down and told her why I yelled at her and told her i loved her and they dont need to be told a bunch of times. well she instantly started to cry (D8 rarely does) I asked her if she was crying because I yelled at her.. she said no. so then I asked if it was because I just told her I loved her and she said no. so I said ok well please tell me.. she said she missed mom and was very upset the divorce was this coming Wed. she was going on how nice everything was when she lived here... how all of her toys were here ect. she said only her and one other girl in her class had parents that got divorced... she was crying so much she was getting blotchy in the face.. I was able to calm her down but I feel so bad for her. I gues W tells them lies about me but D8 does not belive her. D8 tells me she says S3 is only 2years old gets mad at the kids for saying he is 3 and then tells them what ever and walks away!!!!
(It sounds to me like W is going 100% mental) if she is kidding with the kids thats not cool too because they dont know its a joke

[wifeleft2009]

ok.. last week we had a big snow storm so court was cancelled.. now its on the 21st... so one week away I guess.

[bluerain]

Thats too bad WL, I think at a certain point, we just want things to get done. How are you doing otherwise? How have the kids been holding up?

[wifeleft2009]

I would like to just get on with my life. really the court and bills papers ect just get so old.. it tires me just thinking about it. and I still have loads of hurt from what she did to me and the kids.. heck even everyone around her in general

kids seem pretty happy.. they have alot of anger at W though and keep talking about not even wanting to see her anymore D8 even asked why they have to see W! and they keep saying mean things to W. I try my best to tell them they can love W and they dont need to be mad at her..

[P17]

kids seem pretty happy.. they have alot of anger at W though and keep talking about not even wanting to see her anymore D8 even asked why they have to see W! and they keep saying mean things to W. I try my best to tell them they can love W and they dont need to be mad at her..

I would let W deal with this. Be a father and keep telling them that they shouldn't say things like that about their mother, however she HAS to deal with this. she HAS to talk to them. She HAS to explain it to them. Not YOU. HER.

Actions = Consequences

She left. She screwed them around. She has to deal with the fallout.

You've got enough on your plate. Don't add this to the pile when it's not yours to own.

[wifeleft2009]

the thing is she won't and doesn't talk to them much as it is and she def. won't explain anything to them.

[P17]

the thing is she won't and doesn't talk to them much as it is and she def. won't explain anything to them.

Call her out on it in front of the kids then? Make them aware that mummy has something she needs to talk to them about and let her get on with it.

If that doesn't work then don't you explain it. Let the kids ask her. Let the kids be curious and pressure her.