Hope and heartache

[awest1217]

I think what mishka is trying to explain to you is that you think you won't have to deal with W anymore, but that is not true. The girl's will get married one day and you two will be there. They will have families of their own, the two of you will be there. You will never, ever be done with W because of your girls. The two of you will be grandparents together. First birthday of the grandkids. You will both be there.

I read one story in I believe the forgiveness book that said how one man and woman divorced because he had OW and wanted out. The wife learned to forgive and at the birth of their first grandchild they started to talk again. The husband talke about how he thought he would never have to deal with W again, but here they were about to become grandparents together. This was years after the D and they reconnected at that point and got back together. The husband asked her how she could take him back and she said because she learned to forgive, after a few years of being upset. I say this because you will always be around W. It can either be a pleasant experience, not that you will ever agree with her decision, or not. You will always be around her so you need to focus on yourself and set goals for yourself to make you a better person and not about W. You may not be back together in a year. You may get divorced. You may not. You get divorced and later get back together. No one knows the future or can control it, but you can make a difference in you.