Happy Holidays sweetie. Miss you and hope you are well. We can catch up soon but I’m gonna borrow your thread for a minute.
Forever,
You handled the whole situation very well.
He may be trying to resolve the issues, may not. You don’t really know. Part of resolving these things, does not always involve the big “we were wrong, this did happen, and we are sorry” talk. Sometimes, it is simply that the hurt person accept what happened, determine that it doesn’t have to continue affecting them the way it has, forgive, and move on. That is exactly how your H may have to heal from the situation with his parents.
As I am sure you know, this is a very long road. And a very difficult one. My H has always been home and I have watched the baby steps out of the tunnel and the running back in more times than I care to count. That is what they do. So how do you handle the holidays? You do your very best to just enjoy the day for you, think of him with love, and hope that he is happy wherever he is, doing what ever it is that he may be doing. Only he can make his holiday, or any day for that matter, better for himself.
Attempting to draw them out, actually can make them run further away. That is pursuit. Let him flounder. When he is ready, he will talk to you and hopefully, you will be able to listen.
Have a Merry Christmas.
"Acceptance doesn't mean resignation. It means understanding that something is what it is and there's got to be a way through it."--Michael J. Fox
