Only you can decide what you should do regarding contact with your H.
I think if you really and truly are willing to deal with this child that you are a better woman than me.
Being their friend, that is very hard. Especially at this point. He is pulling away because he felt you getting closer. They can’t be close to us through this but they don’t always want to be that far away either.
You really have to take what they say with a grain of salt right now. Even the friend thing. Because the truth is, the friendship, will not be what you think a friendship is. It will still be on his terms and may be very superficial. But something many of them want, part of the MLC fantasy, is that they can be our friends.
Take your time, do only what you are comfortable with, and please remember to have no expectations. Of what anything means, of how you think he should be acting, of what he says or doesn’t say. That will confuse you right now. And your H is confused enough for ten people right now.
Read about MLC, others threads here, the archives, the resources. Learn about it. The more you learn and know, the more all of this nonsense will make sense to you.
"Acceptance doesn't mean resignation. It means understanding that something is what it is and there's got to be a way through it."--Michael J. Fox
