I am not surprised at all by your discovery. Most of us have had discoveries along these lines.
These are the lessons that we need to learn. Lessons that show us what is next in our process. Your desire to “save” or “help” him next time may not be less, but you will rethink before you make the offer. Which is necessary for both of you.
Have a Happy Holiday season with your kids and the rest of your family. ((((hugs))))
"Acceptance doesn't mean resignation. It means understanding that something is what it is and there's got to be a way through it."--Michael J. Fox
