Once again, you are right.... I knew that I should not have called. I was...
I am going to go read... I will finish the Dr book and rethink my situation....
I've told her that I will not tolerate her having an A. I will not share her with another man, that I will not accept nor live in an open marriage. If this contiues I will be forced to take a harder line and ask you to never come back to our home and proceed with filing for a divorce. (that is my boundary) But I don't think she cares about my boundary yet... that does not even make sense what I just said....
I need to read some more.... I am just so confused.... can't think straight
Umm, that's a decent boundary but frankly I'm a bit confused as an observer what the consequences are that you're setting. Sounds vague, wishy-washy, shades of what Puppy calls "Gee, I really wish you wouldn't" rather than a boundary with clear consequences.
"Forced to take a harder line"? To a WAS, that's like I'm gonna count to 3, now 1 ... 2 ... 2 and a half, 2 and three quarters ...
Maybe you can consider setting a clear timeline and clear actions as consequences.
Me 42 W 39 Married: 11 Jan 1998, T: Since 1992 First Bomb: Sep 2007 Confirmed A/OM: 4 Nov 2007 Kids: D10, S5 Reconciled and together again after (alot of) time and heartbreak. 3rd kid, S, born 2 Jan 2010.
