Rob, it sucks. but the advice you are getting now seems about right.
And please try to avoid behaving badly, picking a fight, sulking, jumping at excuses to open hostilities. Try not to show you are hurting. If what you suspect is true, she is on a high right now. Don't let her compare that to a whiny, clingy, weak man.
Don't even think about the next step yet until the sickly feeling passes somewhat and you are more logical. Take a pill and sleep if you need to.
Me 42 W 39 Married: 11 Jan 1998, T: Since 1992 First Bomb: Sep 2007 Confirmed A/OM: 4 Nov 2007 Kids: D10, S5 Reconciled and together again after (alot of) time and heartbreak. 3rd kid, S, born 2 Jan 2010.
so hard. everyone here gives such heartfelt advice. i feel like a wet noodle. Just two hours ago i was buying myself a nice new outfit and some nice cologne. Hard to put on a poker face, especially when i don't play poker. without you kind souls, i don't know what i'd do??
i've been trying to be aloof this past week as per advice here. No talk about relationship or the future. My next plan is to start going out a bit and not being home and accessable 24/7. these are small steps but recommended. It's very hard to keep my mouth shut as i want to know what she's thinking. She probably wouldn't tell the truth anyway. I'm worn out.
it's surreal that i'm here. a healthy ,fit goodlooking professional in the prime of life spending my hours on a web site trying to save my marriage. seems surreal.
This has to be about you right now. Don't spend ALL of your hours on here. Yes, get out of the house. Do things for you and start making some positive changes. Keep pressing forward.
You're right. She probably isn't going to tell you the truth at the moment. That's why it's important to get yourself straight first then worry about what you have to do to approach her in a way that the truth can't really be hidden.
