OK, I pulled the trigger on asking my new friend, let's call her <Bonnie>, to do something on Sat. We narrowed it down to running or snowshoeing (MT fun at its best!)followed by coffee, and if I'm on my game, maybe lunch. She knows my full story and is not scared off. Shoot, I'm scared off by my story! :-)
I am certain reconciliation with WAW will be after our D if at all. She is so determined to seek this "shortcut" out of her pain and fear.
I went sledding with my S4 and S7 the last two nights after work. I heard from daycare that the S4 mentioned sledding yesterday to WAW when she called at noon today. :-) GAL-baby!
I got an email today from a former neighbor asking to go running-one of my GALs. He has seen my name in the local race results. In Sept, his wife had "encouraged" my W to D during the last days we were together (fact-WAW said so in an email to OM).
Former neighbor and second wife met and started an A while they were married to others, and, hey, if it worked for them, it will work for my WAW and OM! Actually, it's not working for second wife and step children - it is war - the UN should be involved! The grass is so much greener... :-)
Former neighbor said in email that I must be having a difficult time. My response was that my boys are having a difficult time, and I mentioned the WAW's admitted affair with OM <by name> (he supervises both in a part-time job-yes, it's sick and wrong) caused me considerable difficulty, but I am doing better every day.
I forwarded my response to my L before I sent it, and she said it was fine.
Interestingly, neighbor wrote back still wanting to go running-no mention of the affair. I don't think I'll run with him.
Another day of DBing in the books. WAW did not work as a sub again today. How does she expect to survive on $80/day as a substitute teacher? We get to use imputed income (she has M.Ed. + 15 credits and 9 yrs experience) to determine child support. So, at 50% custody, we're talking ~$250/month. Do that math and MIL will be supporting her for awhile.
How long will my 40-year old WAW want her mom to give her $1500/month to live? Indefinitely? Reality?
I don't think the financial thing will get her out of the FOG. It will have to be something happen in the R with the OM.
Looking forward to a fun Sat with <Bonnie>. If only WAW would see us together...
