We should really be having this conversation over a glass of wine or martini, BUT, this will have to suffice...
In order for you to become "unscared," do you feel like you need evidence of H's possible indiscretions? Thus, giving you an "answer" to his actions/moods/issues...
Because, really, if he's not, WTF is his problem? And, if he's not willing to help solve, it, then what?
Now he's starting to piss me off, too.
Here's what I don't get, and I apply this thinking to my OWN sitch (even though I'm nowhere near this level of frustration)... IF they are so f'n miserable that they have HAD or are HAVING a PA/EA, whatever kind of A you can name..., then WHY HIDE IT!?!?!?! Why be afraid to be found out? Why lie? Why cover it up? If you're miserable, and you've found someone else, isn't that reason enough to be done w/the marriage and move the F on!?!?!!
OK, done ranting.
Luv ya, Luv.
Me-46, D-21, S15, S13
After many years w/my head in the sand... I FILED Divorced 6/2011
The average woman would rather have beauty than brains, because the average man can see better than he can think.
