Deployed Soldier/Father needs your help

[Deep]

SD, just chiming in to say hi again and to wish you the best.

Yeah, I guess Puppy was asking that question to get you to work out the answer for yourself and that last line you wrote is right.

It's natural to feel at the outset - she can't be doing this, she can't be having an OM, she must know how bad I'll hurt. Followed by expectations of remorse and busting her a$$ after the "Aha, now I caught her" moment. Doesn't quite work that way, and there are many different variants of hell the WAS can put you through from that point. Just remember it's up to you whether it does become hellish instead of "just" difficult.