Yeah, you are right. I'm trying to stop the cake eating without causing a complete uproar at the same time.
HINT: If you're worried about the second thing, you'll never accomplish the first thing.
When you're more concerned with doing The Right Thing to Do; what would God Himself have me do, if He were standing right here in front of me? -- rather than "will that make her angry? How will her anger make ME feel?" . . . then you will have arrived at where you need to be to get started.
