Thanks PDT. Danm straight. What I was doing wasn't working, wasn't going to work and I was losing myself in the process. I have made a stand. It now looks like it has worked.
W called. The A is over. She is complying. Time will tell.
No, a no-contact letter, and a good solid transparency plan, will tell.
Have you asked her if she's willing to do this? If she balks, you'll know she's FOS.