The adventure chronicles

[Gnosis]

Ok, she called again, told me that if I didn't take the woman of FB she was going to file this time and that she wasn't playing.

Blackmail.

She also said she was going to stop paying child support until the court ordered her to do so?

More blackmail. If she's really got a L advising her those would be the last words out of her mouth. I hope she tries this... it will be a guaranteed black mark on her name when it comes to the custody hearing.

DOCUMENT THIS -- and the reason why.

I said, ok that's fine, don't pay, you can answer for that one later on too.

This could be good because you called her bluff. And I believe it was a bluff.

She then went on to say that she felt like there wasn't a need right now for her to pay child support.

DOCUMENT THIS.

She said, well, we'll have to see what my lawyer has to say about that. And, btw, she's expensive and always wins.

More blackmail and stupid move on her behalf.

She said no, if you take the OW of FB then I won't file but we need to move forward in some sort of fashion.

ROFLMAO. AFW you've been absolutely spot on today with your call on your wife. I didn't want to say anything earlier on today wrt other peoples comments because I'm currently on a warpath of my own and felt that my view had been distorted due to my own sitch.

So, I asked her, any other demands? Nope, she said, that's it. I said, so what happens when I take her off? Things will magically get better? Why haven't you signed up for counseling?

I loved these questions. Her answers were pure BS. This woman is one helluva power-hungry creature.

I asked her why she feels so strongly about this even though there's no way I could have a relationship with this OW based on geographical seperation and the fact that we don't even talk that much. She said she was jealous.

That is pure BS. Jealousy doesn't give her the right to threaten the well-being of her kids. Bzzzzt! Sorry. It don't work like that.

So, I'll ask and please be kind, Should I entertain this at all?

NO. NO. NO. NO.

AFWAW there's no point in arguing with her. She is not in her right mind. Someone in her right mind would recall that you STILL have the power to destroy both her and her OM's career. Someone in their right mind would NOT dare threaten anything that could affect custody of their children.

All of this is EMOTIONAL TERRORISM. You are right this is a control issue and a power play to return you to your rightful position in the M (i.e. submission)

I mean, I've told her that I would take her out on dates and asked that she gets counseling but she's refused--it's damn frustrating that she feels like this is her roadblock to start mending our relationship--I honestly don't understand.

This forum is here to repair marriages... so with that in mind I suggest you run deep and run silent - as in BLACK HOLE deep. Ignore ALL attempts to contact.

Second, should I just go talk to my lawyer and file before she does? I feel threatened a little bit with her lawyer talk and the fact that she's not going to pay child support now?

I don't see anything to feel threatened about in her actions. Its all saber-rattling. But do report all this interaction to your L and get a legal opinion.

One last thing... don't forget that you are in a MORE powerful position than her at the moment. You hold the keys. Refresh your memory and go through all your ammunition.