He'll say, "you always take off and think that it's ok." I have been out late several times before (which I rarely do anymore) and come home around 2-3am. I'm out with the girls or something like that - never have been unfaithful but he may see it differently.
He will just throw it in my face - you do this blah blah blah
M44 H41 M20 T23 3 older teens Bomb Nov 09 "i'm not happy" EA Nov 09 w/coworker Another PA in Mar 10 I Filed Apr 10 D final Dec 10
Sheesh this is a tough one Luv. I'm reluctant to give you my opinion because my testosterone levels are running high and I'm in WAR-mode at the moment... Anything I tell you will be extremely biased.
With that in mind I think you're right. Sending prayers and virtual hugs over your way.
You call me strong... for 7 months... sweetie you're a rock for holding on three years. RESPECT.
M:11 | T:12 | Status: Married 4C's of WAS communication: Cool, Calm, Collected and CONFIDENT
Luv, my mind has been really tied up with my own sitch. If it had been me... I'd have been a bit more strategic and held off with the accusation.
I REALLY think you should go and see a L to protect yourself.
After I'd gotten the legal advice I'd tell him the following: "You know what H? I've had enough of your crap. I'd like you to pack your bags and leave. Right now. You say you're not happy? Well guess what. Neither am I. Take some space and go and sort your crap out. I've no interest in continuing any kind of relationship with an indecisive, insecure little man who doesn't know what he wants. If you're the kind of man who needs to have a GF on the side to stroke his ego you're not the kind of man for me. I couldn't be bothered to worry about you right now. Get out."
That's the hardass in me and its a hardline approach. Consider all the above carefully because there are risks involved.
M:11 | T:12 | Status: Married 4C's of WAS communication: Cool, Calm, Collected and CONFIDENT
Luv, my mind has been really tied up with my own sitch. If it had been me... I'd have been a bit more strategic and held off with the accusation.
I REALLY think you should go and see a L to protect yourself.
After I'd gotten the legal advice I'd tell him the following: "You know what H? I've had enough of your crap. I'd like you to pack your bags and leave. Right now. You say you're not happy? Well guess what. Neither am I. Take some space and go and sort your crap out. I've no interest in continuing any kind of relationship with an indecisive, insecure little man who doesn't know what he wants. If you're the kind of man who needs to have a GF on the side to stroke his ego you're not the kind of man for me. I couldn't be bothered to worry about you right now. Get out."
That's the hardass in me and its a hardline approach. Consider all the above carefully because there are risks involved.
EXACTLY how I think G - but too scared right now but don't think for one minute I didn't think of this scenario. I'm trying to get up the guts G - I suck right now
M44 H41 M20 T23 3 older teens Bomb Nov 09 "i'm not happy" EA Nov 09 w/coworker Another PA in Mar 10 I Filed Apr 10 D final Dec 10
I'm trying to get up the guts G - I suck right now.
No sweetie, you don't suck. You're just in an emotional state. Wait until you can calm down. Get your legal advice. Find out exactly what you're looking at. Get your ducks in a row. Then when you are in a reassured you can deal from within a position of strength.
EDIT: One more thing I'd like to add: YOU ARE A LOT STRONGER THAN YOU THINK. You're just letting your mind mess you around.
I did have to smile a bit on your post G. and yes, you ARE in WAR mode!
Luv, I really don't think that approach is the right approach though. lol first, what is your vision? what do you really want in the end? next, you will need to look at the choices you will make and ask yourself "will this get me further or closer to my vision?"
If the best thing is for you to not go run away, then try to make yourself busy in other ways. the less time your around him right now will probably be better. your emotional level is not at a level to deal with him in the appropriate way. a way that you can remain calm and cool.
Me 33 H 34 S9 S3 M 6 yrs (2gether 11 yrs) EA/PA 1/2006 DB 5/2006 H wants D 6/2006 H wants ME 8/2006 H "said" PA/EA over 8/2006 H erased OW off phone! 2/2007
"It is far better 2 choose humility & change oneself, than 2 wait in vain trying 2 chang someone else."
