The adventure chronicles

[AFWAW]

Ok, she called again, told me that if I didn't take the woman of FB she was going to file this time and that she wasn't playing. She also said she was going to stop paying child support until the court ordered her to do so?

At that point I got pissed. I said, ok that's fine, don't pay, you can answer for that one later on too. She said she felt like she was paying too much. Ok, got it. We'll see what the court has to say. She then went on to say that she felt like there wasn't a need right now for her to pay child support. I asked how she figured that one out? She said, well, you haven't had to pay day care these past few months--yep, ok, she's in basketball right now, got it. And, the money's not going into her account--yep you're right I said, it's not. So she asked, where's it going? I said, well, let's see the money goes to pay for her food, clothing and shelter. She said, well, we'll have to see what my lawyer has to say about that. And, btw, she's expensive and always wins. Ok, got it I said. (a veiled threat perhaps?)

So, I said, is that it? She said no, if you take the OW of FB then I won't file but we need to move forward in some sort of fashion. So, I asked her, any other demands? Nope, she said, that's it. I said, so what happens when I take her off? Things will magically get better? Why haven't you signed up for counseling? She said, for us or for me? I said, for you. She replied, that she didn't need counseling, that she's fine now and she knows what the right thing is to do. I asked her why she feels so strongly about this even though there's no way I could have a relationship with this OW based on geographical seperation and the fact that we don't even talk that much. She said she was jealous.

I asked her of what? I'm not dating her and there's no relationship. She said, I just am. I said, so let me get this straight, you are wanting to date other people because you feel alone, you've had sex outside the marriage, had an EA and you're upset because you presume that because you've done these things that I have done them also? I said, well that just isn't the case, that hasn't happened. She said, not that I know of. Ok, I said, goodbye, I'm done talking for now.

So, I'll ask and please be kind, Should I entertain this at all?

I mean, I've told her that I would take her out on dates and asked that she gets counseling but she's refused--it's damn frustrating that she feels like this is her roadblock to start mending our relationship--I honestly don't understand.

Second, should I just go talk to my lawyer and file before she does? I feel threatened a little bit with her lawyer talk and the fact that she's not going to pay child support now?