Keep gunning for what you would like. You are taking care of the house... put a value on that, please. And more. You were married for awhile. Your husband still has affection and good will toward you. Keep the house, Keep the house, Keep the house.
Keep jamming at the system. I learned from YEW to do that. Do it.
At some point, I will take my own advice. I am pretty glad to be heading for Ak for Christmas with my kids.. It is warmer than in WI.
