Deployed Soldier/Father needs your help

[MichelleLT]

A couple ways to go about that.

Either write a e-mail/letter down the road. Way down the road.

Or she might initiate a R talk. Which is your chance to say, W, I want to give us another chance, in order for that to happen I need to know that there is no OM, I need transparency, I need XY&Z. That's why you've been asked to mull over what is important to you. SO you have time to think over that, and to be prepared to tell her so when an appropriate time comes.

You are not in a position to communicate that to her for several reasons.

First, you are dark.

Second, she doesn't want to hear it. In all likelihood, she won't want to hear it for quite some time. Patience.