I don't think I do very well trying to offer suggestions to women who have a H like yours. Maybe it's my personality, IDK, but I think a lot of it has to do with the fact that I was never subject to anything like that so I don't really know how to understand it. When I try to give advice, it just comes out sounding mean & cold hearted.....
My sister was M to a man who was a bully and I would get so angry at her b/c she allowed him to treat her the way she did. She would leave and then go back....back & forth and I just didn't understand why she wanted to go back to him.
Just please be careful and take care of yourself b/c I don't think anyone should have to "settle" for this kind of treatment. There are some good men out there, and you deserve better.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
