I don't think you ever did say what the problem was between you & your W. You just said there had been ups & downs over the past couple of years. When you talk about her, it sounds like she is the "boss" in the family and you take a back seat to her. Maybe it's just me, IDK, but you appear to be indecisive about every subject that comes up....even when we are trying to offer suggestions. I'm thinking that she might be turned on to see a man who really knows what he wants and then stands up to her to get it.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
