Bunny--PLEASE don't be alone with someone--including your H--until you do some serious work on boundaries. When you've spent years with a controlling or abusive partner, it's a natural consequence to lose your boundaries. Please commit yourself to some serious work on this issue, for your own growth and healing.
M60 H52 D20 M14 yrs OW-old gf from 1986 bomb-5/18/08 H filed for D-9/10/08 D final 4/24/09 xH remarried (not OW) 2012