Always nice to get an update from you. i try to keep an eye out for you. i would sure love to read some type of progress from your wife. i guess that is the person she is or has become and you have decided to live with it. as long as that is what you want. it sure does not sound like a very happy home life....but who am i to judge. it is your life to live my friend. good for you and the weight loss...
Hey Lan, Glad you checked in, we do wonder about you, ya know...
Originally Posted By: Lanzo
There's not much happening in the bedroom either, I tried to instigate something the other morning and was refused, it wasn’t the refusal which peed me off it was the excuse ”your snoring kept me awake all night,” and that was followed by “I’m not gonna make you make me late for work”. Those pi$$ poor excuses bring back bad memories for me as well as annoying me. Anyway thats enough focus on W, apart from me saying, the more I observe the more I see our problems are down to her.
This bit jumped out at me. When it's been a really long time since you two ML, maybe your W is looking for the return to intimacy to be a little more thought out/ romantic/ special than "Hey I woke up h0rny, let's have a quickie before we dash off to work." YouknowwhatImean?
Thread #10 22 year M, MLC, Piecing since 1/07 Goal: Live with confidence & enthusiasm!
W is W, after all our ups and downs she hasn't changed one bit her attitude and outlook are just the same as they were 3-4 years ago, the only difference now is there is no OM or PA going on (to the best of my knowledge).
Rob, I've done romantic holidays, romantic walks, I've done the we don't need to ML you can just lay next to me. I've done the surprise special meals, I've done the family days and events that she always craves. She'll lap them up then thats it. She has told me that she wants to be woo'ed but, I've told her that if someone wanted to be woo'ed they usually make themselves receptive to that. she doesn't do that.
When I zig she (intentionally)zags, when I do the classic focus on me and D8 she muscles in, if I do a 180 she'll do a 180. If I walk she moves closer, if I stop she stops, its as if she wants to keep a certain distance between us and we don't go beyond.
So I just sigh to myself and say get on with my own stuff cos I have absolutely no idea what goes on in her head.
Lanzo, I can feel your frustration from across the ocean. I can only imagine that your W has major hormone problems. Have you tried having some serious talks with her about your intimate future together?
D8, no money, no alternatives, I would say I'm not happy and frustrated rather than unhappy if that makes sense.
Kerry,
I could have serious talks with W, I could have light hearted talks, but W only talks when she wants to and if the subject is not to her liking or not of her choosing then she won't talk.
I can relate so much to your frustration. But I guess my sitch is a little better than yours. I am sill not doing totally what I want because like you every time in the past that I tried to move ahead I actually ended up taking two steps back...
As of now it seems as long as I just go along with things they are advancing Doc
And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
