Deployed Soldier/Father needs your help

[SoldierDad]

Trent, you are exactly right about the submitting thing. I'm not sure she would respect those boundaries either. I just don't think she understands what bad shape she is in right now. She will have an idea tomorrow though.

[MichelleLT]

Typically, they revert to teenage-hood. That emotional angst, the moodiness, the selfishness, the self-centeredness, the irresponsibility.

It's working in your favor. "Ours is not to reason why." Just take advantage of it lol.

[SoldierDad]

Ya, I am taking advantage of every bone she throws my way. Honestly, I don't think she has any idea what she is doing.

She is completely different than when I knew her. She has new friends, etc.

The "fixer" in me wants to help her, but I know that I can't.

When I think of all these things I feel sorry for her, because she has done some horribly irresponsible things to herself, my boys, and me.

I really don't believe my W will change, or come out of this "fog", she is in. I think she likes her lifestyle, and is angry at me for putting a dent in it. She wants to keep doing whatever it is she is doing, and I am standing in the way of that.

[TrentC]

Also, today was in the PX food court waiting on a friend to have lunch with. I am just looking around-there is my W with her girlfriend eating lunch. As soon as I saw them, I got up and left. But, I did se her talking with a CW2 at her table, so I followed him to the drink dispenser, and got his name just in case. I immediately called my lawyer and told the receptionist what happened-she documented it, in case my W tries anything.

Good for you on respecting the TRO.

It seems that my W is doing all the work for me!! She is making this too easy-is this the FOG doing it's evil doings???

Well, she doesn't seem to be too intent on hiding much...

[soleil]

Hey SD,

What is an open container citation?

Your wife is definitely not herself at the moment. Did you find out if the OM was the one in the photographs? I know you said that your unit had contacted some married guys in the barracks.

Welcome home, by the way.

[TrentC]

Hey SD,

What is an open container citation?

I can answer that -- being cited for driving with an open container of alcohol in your vehicle (beer can, whiskey bottle, etc.)

[Coach]

I really don't believe my W will change

Once she realises that you are playing hardball she will change tactics. Might be for D or reconciliation but she will change.

[SoldierDad]

soleil,
it is basically a ticket that indicates there was an open container of alcohol in her vehicle. I am sure they did a alcohol test on her too, but she must of passed that.

There were no pics of people, just plate numbers, room numbers, pics of vehicles, where they went.

I am still waiting on confirmation about the M soldier.

[SoldierDad]

Coach,
I doubted some of the other stuff you guys told me. I refuse to doubt you anymore, so then she WILL change.

[SoldierDad]

Well,
anyone have suggestions on what I need to start doing now?

I am open to all suggestions to help me with my sitch.

Are there things I can be doing right now to prepare for the future?