I think she was thinking I would be in the house and I'd never see him. She started to pull out when I walked to the car. She knew what was going to happen. But she stopped, then said something really stupid 'would you like to meet him?'
I'm not sure I was all calm cool and collected. I boiled over pretty fast.
I'm willing to flush this guy at least once. He won't be back, but I'm sure well run into each other someplace. You don't mess with married people, there are consequences.
I've read on here many times how disappointing it is to finally see OP. This guy was a complete nerd, big teeth, measley fellow. You'd think she'd at least trade up to someone good looking and with some $ this guy was pretty homely.
They never trade up! I dont think that its about finding someone better, I think that its about finding someone who is the antithesis of you. If you are educated, good looking and fit with a full time job, he will be a high school drop out, with 4 teeth and a drug habit.
I think that the OW in my sitch was balding... no, really.
"Would you like to meet him?" Ha! What did she expect to happen?
I guess I gave the wrong finger to the wrong man...
The only thing I could really see clearly were his scared eyes and his big teeth, which must glow in the dark
Ha ha ha!!! Sorry, had to respond. I know it wasn't "civil" of you to threaten OM but (and this is from a woman who does not enjoy watching boxing or playing violent video games), I secretly admit that it is a turn on when "my man" fights for me. I am also pretty typical female! Not that you wanted your WW to be flattered. It is just not attractive to see "my man" say or do nothing .
NOW DON'T DO ANYTHING MORE TO THE OM!He's scared sh*tless for sure!
me,34 exH,34 S,16 months S:3/31/09-left for OW started DBing 10/09 d final: sometime 10/10 current: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2022856&page=1 met in 2004
Long time since I posted to you (but I still follow your thread).
I'm sorry but I nearly peed myself laughing at your description of your confrontation with OM. Not all of us get the chance to see the OP but I guess we can take the gloves off a little after a D is final. I think you did good under the circumstances plenty of posturing and verbals without getting physical.
You gave me a another laugh when you said you'd reached "ass status" with XW, I laughed cos XW probably thought you reached that a long time ago. but the day was yours, I hope that all of that goes a little way towards helping you move on with you life.
Tostada dude, that is pretty funny now about the confrontation. I have this image of you as Dr. David Banner and all of your clothes splitting off with green muscles clinching as you tell your XW's loser boyfriend a piece of your mind.
Having seen the guy (and his beaver teeth) has to help make it easier for you to cut your XW loose out of your mind. Move forward man!
With my blood pressure back to normal and my muscles shrinking down to non existence, thought I'd catch up.
There's been no mention regarding my hulkamania moment from my son and no sign of it in any messages to or from his mother. I'm not concerned about it. I think its ok for him to see there are consequences for stupidity.
This is the triple witching week where I call xw out on some lying. Winter break for school starts fri, but she's pulling kids out a few days early, again, so she can have a longer vacation. Thus, when I prove this has happened, since she won't tell me, ill straighten her out on the parenting plan for the first part of '10, which she's made plans for and is all screwed up. Not my problem, but I'm certain I will reach 'double ass' status at that point.
I have told a few friends about my event the other night. All pretty much could not believe she asked me if I 'wanted to meet him', and had the lack of intelligence to deliver this moron to my house. My friends are just dumfounded on her continued poor decision making.
Just so you know, my kids are missing school this week also. They are in Maui for their mothers wedding. If she went during xmas break, the cost would have been much higher. I initially was going to hold her feet to the parenting plan partly because she did not consult with me at first and I dont like the idea of the kids missing school. But in the end, I realized that I need to choose my battles carefully and sometimes take a more diplomatic stance and be open to some flexibility with the parenting plan. She was understanding, thankful and has compensated me with extra time with the kids. She has also allowed me to have S9 on Sundays that are her night so as to attend cub scout meetings.
It is your choice...You can be the double ass and be angry about it and possibly get L's involved or you can use some tact in getter her to negotiate things in the best interest of the kids. Be thinking leverage.
BTW... it is pretty good odds that doofuss horse tooth will be discarded in the future for a new loser.
