I may not want a divorce but the, fact is the fact.
It's your choice.
If you change your mind and decide you want to try to fight and save your marriage (or recreate it), we'll be here.
Me: 44, Wife: 39 M: 17 years T: 20 years Bomb on 08/25/09 1/13/10: MC started 1/28/10, 2/8/10: More bombs 8/28/10: Wife moved out No talk of D, no movement
Yeah - I hear you but she has also said she see's no other alternative, there is to much fire, she can't be here knowing she cares for him, yadayadayada.
I know me if it's over - I won't much care to be best friends or buddies. This has been a 6 mos. battle full of lies and pain. I won't want to revist "small talk" just to be cordial especially with the in my face nature of the OM, being a friend and coaching together.
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M43 W43 D11 S7 M18 T20 WAW is back & trying (no she was lying) Close to callin' it busted but.... watching Whatever the outcome - It was a choice.
Yeah - I hear you but she has also said she see's no other alternative, there is to much fire, she can't be here knowing she cares for him, yadayadayada.
Keep in mind -- Greek was the one saying that kind of thing to her husband. If she says a wife can come around, I think she's in a position to know.
Me: 44, Wife: 39 M: 17 years T: 20 years Bomb on 08/25/09 1/13/10: MC started 1/28/10, 2/8/10: More bombs 8/28/10: Wife moved out No talk of D, no movement
Yeah - I hear you but she has also said she see's no other alternative, there is to much fire, she can't be here knowing she cares for him, yadayadayada.
Have I missed something here, and forgive me if I have. It's all about her, she, this and that. It sounds a bit like a pity party. Who gives a rats a$$ what she wants. What do YOU want?
How about you contest it? Buy yourself some time and DB her a$$ off?
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I know me if it's over - I won't much care to be best friends or buddies. This has been a 6 mos. battle full of lies and pain. I won't want to revist "small talk" just to be cordial especially witht the in my face nature of it.
Totally understand that. That is the route I will go with my W, and I have told her that. But that is YOUR choice.
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Me 36, W 34 | D 8 | M 3.5y Sep 2Aug09 | Left 6Sep09 | OM in 10Oct09 | NC 17Nov09 | Gave up caring - Jan 2010
"Have integrity. Do what is right, not what is expedient." "Delay is the antidote for anger"
Yeah - I hear you but she has also said she see's no other alternative, there is to much fire, she can't be here knowing she cares for him, yadayadayada.
We are not buying stock in what she says, OB. I was "done", too. And now look at me. There is a lot for both of you to learn. She doesn't KNOW as much as she thinks she does. Same goes for you, bud.
Hope! Greek
Me45 H46 T25 M22 S21 & 19 D13 Separated and filed 8/08 Moved home 11/08
I have informed her that I am getting my own attorney.
F the pity party - your right.
Good man. Pick those b*lls up and get on with it. This is NOT about her, this is about YOU.
"Nothing in the world is worth having or worth doing unless it means effort, pain, difficulty... I have never in my life envied a human being who led an easy life. I have envied a great many people who led difficult lives and led them well." -- Theodore Roosevelt
Me 36, W 34 | D 8 | M 3.5y Sep 2Aug09 | Left 6Sep09 | OM in 10Oct09 | NC 17Nov09 | Gave up caring - Jan 2010
"Have integrity. Do what is right, not what is expedient." "Delay is the antidote for anger"
She must not of liked that- Immediatelly 8 no 9 calls in a row!
Too bad you're too busy to answer them... right?
Me: 44, Wife: 39 M: 17 years T: 20 years Bomb on 08/25/09 1/13/10: MC started 1/28/10, 2/8/10: More bombs 8/28/10: Wife moved out No talk of D, no movement