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[S.T. _I Made It!]

hey, I'm so sorry I've missed so much!!! if you find me on fb, you can always email me Crissy Seamster

I've been in Dallas at a conference, so i'm way behind on everyone.

but I saw this

I text him "im at dinner - love u - nite. I got no response. Whatever.

stop telling him ILY. don't do that until he is ready to commit. IMHO. and because of your response, you are not keeping your expectations to a zero. you have to do this, for your own sanity. you cannot expect anything, and because you ARE expecting, you are setting yourself up to be bitter and angry, and it also means you are looking to him for your happiness. you've got to find your happiness without him. our spouses are NOT there to make us happy, but to be a blessing, and addition, to our happiness. if we are expecting them to make us happy, then we will NEVER be truly happy, because they are human, and sinful humans at that!

so, I have no idea what has happened recently, I saw something that makes me think your assuming he's having an affair? is that correct or incorrect?

anyways, no matter what, the goal should be the same. stop focusing on him, and focus on you.

and the validation thing, yes yes, that is a great point!

one thing I learned at my convention, we have got to focus on the positives. Whatever we zoom in on in a picture is what we will print, so do we want to focus and print the bad or the good?? we get to choose. we get to choose how we will respond, so make a choice to be proactive instead of reactive.

also, if you do not stay focused to your dreams or your path, when you get disappointed (and we will ALL be disappointed at some point by distractions and by obstacles) you will find yourself in discouragement. And then if you allow yourself to focus on the discouragement and negativity, it will lead you to depression. We definitely don't want that! So how do we stay focused? We are proactive and we take action daily and we zoom in on the positive, not the negative. Sometimes this even requires removing ourselves from situations that are negative, or people who are negative. Surround yourself with positive people and positive events, positive books, music, whatever.

We believe in you! Believe in yourself!!