Oh greeeat. I'm not good with conflict. Good thing I just got a refill on the rx of anti-anxiety pills. I haven't been sleeping well.
Sorry to hear about you not sleeping well. If it helps, it's actually part of our 'script'. It's the withdrawal from the R - it suppresses the appetite, disrupts your sleep etc. It's natural.
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So, how nasty can it get?
His goal is to get you to respond. To do that he knows he has to hurt you as bad as he ever could so that you will retaliate.
You know that ONE thing that he knows always get's you angry or upset? That thing that he can say that will push your buttons? He'll be saying it, but he'll be saying it a lot. And he'll be saying it solely to hurt you and upset you. That gives him the power back and makes him feel better.
You have the power just now. Don't lose it. If you respond in a moment of weakness, as PDT says, the clock goes back to 0:00 and he wins, you lose. Don't play the game and he can't win. Period.
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I've been searching the forums for others' experiences but haven't lucked out. I know it's unpredicatable, but isn't most of their behavior script? Just like predicting it'll escalate?
Yep. It's script. Although I think knowing what you have said about H, he is a candidate for the script 100%.
My W on the other hand isn't. She hasn't followed the script. However I never expected her too. Your sitch is different.
Me 36, W 34 | D 8 | M 3.5y Sep 2Aug09 | Left 6Sep09 | OM in 10Oct09 | NC 17Nov09 | Gave up caring - Jan 2010
"Have integrity. Do what is right, not what is expedient." "Delay is the antidote for anger"
