I think the holidays can be hard regardless. I think the best solutions are to keep busy and to change your routine. Even though I have a perfectly fine artificial tree, I went and boutght a real one this year. It smells lovely. The girls have never had a real one and the bioys were pretty little so they don't remember having a real one. I also didn't use my old, sentimental ornaments. No reason to hurt myself. There will be a time when I can use them or pass them on to my kids but just not this year.
You also seem to be doing well on the dating front. I have been divorced 1.5 years and still haven't gone on a date. I am not really trying at the moment, just want to get to a good place for me. All in good time I think.
hugs, kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
Naej, The baby wasn't the only reason I stayed home. D14 was ill and I'm also really not enjoying my current job. I have major issues with how my line manager goes about managing and yesterday it all just got too much for me.
Me 43 XH 45 M 2.7.88 Divorce 7.10.09 Kids D20,S17 & D15
I am feeling a bit better today. Although for some stupid reason I spent the whole night dreaming about the guy I had the fling with in August. I don't want to dream about him, he isn't available and he didn't want me so the dreams were very irritating.
I'm off to a Christmas party tonight so hopefully that will give my mood a bit of a kick start.
Me 43 XH 45 M 2.7.88 Divorce 7.10.09 Kids D20,S17 & D15
Glad your feeling beter Al, hope the party is great. I didn,t mean to sound harsh,believe me I have had many duvet days and issolated myself too often and now I see that I did myself no favours. Yep, hear you on the job thing and when its another factor it all gets too much. Strange with the dreams. I had a fling awhile ago,I knew it was just that but had fun. I ended it but every now and again I want it back. How I expect any man to understand me when I am a mystery to myself is beyond me lol.
that's part of the problem Naej. He told me at the first date there was no longevity becaused he wanted babies! He knew from the start that I had three grown up children. He pursued me (all be it for a week.) It was my first encounter (in more ways than one) after H and I felt very let down. I wasn't prepared for 'fun'at that stage (which is all he wanted from me)so I ended it but now that I am he is all loved up with someone he does want to have babies with (and he must have met her VERY soon after me).
I know why this has happened. It's because FB changed thier privacy settings. I couldn't see his profile before but he could email to mine (which he has). Now the site keeps asking if I want to send him a friends request. I very much want to but know it is not the right thing to do. I'd like to think he would ask me but he won't.
Me 43 XH 45 M 2.7.88 Divorce 7.10.09 Kids D20,S17 & D15
FB doesn't care whether you send a request or not. If you don't want to then just hit the x in the corner. Then you won't get that request again. You are the one in control!
