Is this the end of my marriage?

[P17]

Well P. I avoided the IC all this time. But I think I am going to look into seeing what work will provide. I do not want to use IC to look at my deep past. I want to use IC to help me with DB principals and goal oriented principals in life.

I had an MC for me and W which turned into an IC when she split. The counsellor for me has actually been pretty important in getting me to where I am. I have to admit though that generally I feel worse after coming away from her. The emotions that are brought up and the feelings that are dusted off can be quite overwhelming but it is a lot better now than it was at the beginning.

The counsellor for me is a sounding board for things I want to get off my chest. I know I can say anything I like without being judged or without having her 'opinion' in it. She listens, validates and asks me questions to help me find my true feelings.

Not once has she delved into my past though.

It was also her who gives me the confidence to go on as she can see me changing.

I think I have come along quite well. But I think this would really help me stay focused on my growth. And help me with every aspect of my life. I truelly want to become a better person from all this. Balance out the negative with postitive. And set myself up where all this becomes a habit.

I only have positive experiences with my IC so I can tell you that this should help you. Counselling isn't for everybody, and I know it wasn't for W, but it works for me and I think it would for you. The key is to be open.

I know that I have a habit to float. Go with the flow. That my friend is a 180 I have been working on. But I think I am going to really need some additional help on this.

My 180 is take control of me and my life

Perhaps we should start another thread on all this here in the Infidelity/Extramarital Affairs/Jealousy section.

I think that might be a good idea. I don't have a problem using this thread though as I have started another one.

I really do not want to fail again on this issue.

Cutter, it sounds to me like you're having a bad day. Am I right? You don't sound as confident and as focused as you have before. Something in particular happen today or has it just been one of those days?

Anyways. I hope your having a good day.

It's been entertaining See new thread.