One day at a time....

[Hope4us]

That's awesome that he's talking with an IC and is doing that self reflection that's necessary to recover from this.

I didn't know it at the time, but my W was doing those self reflections. She wasn't sharing that with me, but she was. Would it have been easier if she'd have shared that with me? Heck yes it would (he says in his best Napoleon Dynamite voice), but as long as she's done that reflection, that's all that matters.

Sounds like your H is taking those necessary steps to figure out just WHY he did what he did. And that bodes well for your future.