Think OW is here in my house right now!

[aflowergurlie]

Heard H come home this morning. I went in kitchen to make myself some breakfast. H came through kitchen on his way out the door to work. Didn't say a word to me and didn't even make eye contact with me. Just rushed through and had an angry/nervous energy on him. I just stayed calm and collected and went about my business until he left.

Then things got crazy earlier. H called me from the home phone on his lunch and left me a voicemail in which he was pretty much yelling about me taking the money out of "his" account. I called him back and initially, things got very heated. I tried to calm myself down during the convo and he just went on and on about how I'm just a money-grubbing bitch and he knew this is what is going to come down to, I was just waiting to take advantage of the situation and get him for anything I could. If I do it again, my stuff will be out by the street, he's kicking me out of the master bedroom, he wants rent money back from me, he's getting a lawyer for himself and on and on. I told him that I was trying to get this done in the most quickest and least costly manner possible. But if he wanted to keep it up, we'll go down the other road and he'll see just how bad it will get. He wants to play dangerous games, we'll play. In the eyes of the law he has squandered almost $10,000 in the past few months, etc. Then it got to a point where he was just getting even more heated so I said, Ok, I'm done with the conversation and I'm hanging up and hung up.

Few minutes later he calls back and I answer the phone and just say "Are you going to settle down?" H - Continues talking calmly for a while and then took it to a who has done what to whom match after I brought up settlement agreement means going over the division of the assets, debts, physical property, alimony, and any other items, which I started to engage him on, but then quickly realized what was happening and stopped it by just saying Ok, Ok, if that's how you feel, and I'm sorry you feel that way, over and over repeatedly. Finally, I just said "I'm busy and have to go. But, I'm willing to sit down with you and go over the settlement agreement later this week." Then he says "Touch another penny in that account and you'll see what happens." followed with I need you to go to the bank with me to close out the account. I just replied "Find out from the bank what needs to be done and let me know. Bye."

Just got a text from him - "I want to sit down calmly as two adults and figure out exactly what we both realistically are looking for as an outcome for all of this. I also left paperwork on the bar that needs to be signed. Want to sit down with you tmrw."

(The paperwork he is referring to is for an offer on our condo that's for sale.)

Thinking of responding "I would like that as well. I am willing to meet with you tomorrow at home at 7:00pm." ? Or should I put him off longer until I finish putting my settlement offer into writing to give to him when we meet?