Calling out the Piecers

[Hope4us]

Dday, I don't think you need to shut up. IMHO, piecing is a totally different situation than what you've been going through for a long time. It requires a different mind set and I think that's what everyone is trying to help you with.

Look, it's only been two weeks since the turn in your sitch. That is still VERY new. A good solid recovery of a marriage will take pretty close to two years.

It's a marathon, not a sprint. Take what everyone is trying to say to you with it's intended purpose. We want your marriage to work and are trying to give you advise to help you along the road that a number of us have previously traveled. Learn from our mistakes so you don't make them.

Heck, even that hard azz Puppy complimented me not too long ago about my patience and compasion AFTER my W's A was busted. I took that as the biggest compliment I'd ever received!

I'm all for your boundary of NC. It's ABSOLUTELY NECESSARY before your relationship with your W will be able to move to the next level. But also realize, your W is dealing with a whole bunch of chit right now too and if you want to make it work, a different mind set is required than what got you to this point.

Make sense?