Calling out the Piecers

[Jack_Three_Beans]

DDay,

I'm not going to lose my sanity over this. She needs to ante up and abide NC, with all of them, period. I don't give a rats ass if she has no other way of getting to work. She got herself in this mess, she'll have to figure a way out. End of story.

I'm not sure if she's going to like the person I've become as result of this whole process. I'm no longer the lay down, take it for the fate of peace person taht she ran amock over. To coin the phrase: no more mister nice guy. She has sh!t to prove, and she's gonna do it my way or hit the highway.

Welcome to the fun world of piecing. And you thought it was going to be easy.

I am pretty sure that no one is suggesting that you lie down and take it. That you shouldn't be firm. I'm pretty sure its the tone, cause that is what I am worried about.

Her actions are definately coming up against the boundaries you established, but there are better ways of being firm without being an assshole too.

You got hit hard with some information...and you are letting your reaction control you instead of you controlling your reaction.

Is that what you want?

I am not saying lie down and take in the rear end. I am saying that there is a better way of telling her not just no but fukc no about riding in the car with him.

"Let me get this right? I want to trust you, you want me to trust you, but you cannot understand why I would have a problem with you riding in the same car with the guy you had an affair with? Do you know how all the marriages that survive an affair managed to survive? No contact, nothing. Not even in emergencies."

Pup has 6 years of advice to pull from.

I'm going to tell you something that you may not like. You aren't unique in being here. Your laundry list, I am willing to bet that the people here could tell you the top three reasons very quickly.

You're right we don't know you or your wife. Or the hundred of other WAS/MLC and LBSs who all have similar problems.

This piecing is harder then standing, because it takes both of you to want it to work, and you can fukc it up just as easily as she can if you arent smart about it.