Deployed Soldier/Father needs your help

[TrentC]

I just can't think that far ahead right now. I do still love her-I know it sounds dumb after everything, but it is still there.

I know it's early to decide anything. But it's a good idea to at least start thinking about it, so you can plan accordingly. (For example, if you decide you want to give up on the R, that will affect the conversations you have with your lawyer.)

And it's not dumb -- you're talking to a forum full of people who are in much the same boat as you.

Wether W will submit to my boundaries, and other things to regain my trust, is yet to be seen.

It's not about "submitting" to boundaries; that's controlling behavior and unlikely to get you anywhere. It's about her respecting your boundaries; those things that are unacceptable to you in a relationship.