Deployed Soldier/Father needs your help

[MichelleLT]

It's how it goes. There is an established cycle to this.

We have all experienced eerily similar WASs. It's like they take lessons or something! Lol.

Focus on you and the boys. Set boundaries with her. If she realizes what she's throwing away and comes back, then you can decide whether you want to work on things.

You may not believe it now, but in about 90% of cases, it is the LBS who gets to decide whether to D or not.

Most of the time, the WAS is "content" (I can't think of a better word, but they are not content about anything in their whole lives usually lol) to let you live in limbo while they spin their wheels and go through their self-destructive phase (I don't think it's conscious, just that they are so wrapped up in their own $h!t that they don't think about the effect they are having on their families, nor do they experience the passage of time like the LBS does). It's our choice oftentimes whether to wait it out or pull the plug.