Calling out the Piecers

[dday101798]

Dday, I agree that NC is important. OM should not be driving your W to work. Taxi, bus, sometimes friends, I assume you could help her out sometime? Can she also get a license (think you said she didn't have one), and start driving also?

I think the WAS don't realize the kind of pain and stress we go through at the time; they're in la-la land themselves. Hopefully, some of that will become obvious, and you should just be honest with her, she shouldn't expect you or your M to be fully recovered in a month or 2 and I would hope will realize that.

Hi Karen,

Hope is all well (or as can be with you).

XW's "plan" at this point is to ride with him until x-mas as the work they do is highly seasonal. She has a few friends working there as well, but do to the volume are all on different shifts, work times. As I said, I can only sympathize with this to an extent. She says at the end of the month she should be able to get a different ride and OM will end his temporary employment there. So, I'm just supposed to live on pins and needles until then I guess.

As part of the plan, she thinks she'll get her license back after paying hefty fees for another uninsured accident through income taxes. She has yet to listen to me that the Federal Government looks at you a whole lot different when your filing status is 'single' and a refund, if any, will simply not fulfill this hoop dream.

There's not much I can do to help her on this aspect. Her work is 15 miles or so west of where she is at, by me, so I'd have to drive halfway to my job, turn around drop her off and start over, not very practical. I put enough miles on my truck in a day as it is.

Anyway, I have been honest with her that this is not going to be an overnight fix as she thinks. She does not yet seem to understand how that even if what she says is true and a ride is the extent of their interaction, how it effects me. How her continued interaction with that family effects me. And, I had a thought, and I know it plays into the OP handbook. She is a very attractive woman. Very flambouyant, grab the attention of the room type personality. I can not fathom for one second OM just sitting there and "respecting" her feelings towards me that she says completely inhibits their ability to have a relationship, I call B/S on that, whole heartedly.

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I'm sure the very thought of I was with a person of previous interest last night reminds her or gives her inkling to how I am feeling about her an OM. And that perhaps the very fact I was open and tranparent as can be about it gave her some re-assurance she can offer back in return.