Separated, new baby, but still hopeful

[june72]

newmama,
How do you want to play this out? Statue quo forever is unacceptable, right?

My situation was different- 14 month in-house separation with 2 kids (no A). I don't know if you would call the truth darts. But after many months of DBing with little changes on his end. I started making small mentions to the possibility of D- confidently, calmly and off the cuff remarks on rare occasion. I also started to pull back some more and more from the friendliness and conversation. I just gave very small minor hints about the direction things would eventually head if the way things were continued. Irony being that he was insistent that we were going to end up divorcing in the future.

Could you in a sly way leave up dating web sites? If you hubby sees them you could say "yeah, I've started to think about it, I mean I would love for us to be together again but if you don't want to, I need to start to think about moving on. I just am nervous about introducing son to another man you know. Hmm *sigh*"

Are you gutsy enough to do it? I think it would really shake him,

Maybe something like- people keep telling me I should start dating, I'm not sure yet. I just worry about finding a guy who would love our son as a father should. I mean it's not just about what I would like in a guy, I have to make sure he would be a good father.

Or out of the blue, I've been thinking about dating, when are you filing?

Or just Have you given any thoughts to filing? If he starts to talk about it. Maybe state- well just so you know I am still against divorce and I would love to have a marriage with you again but I can only express my wishes- you have your own decisions to make. I have been doing a lot of thinking about things as of late though (leave it vague, maybe)

Can you tell us a lot more about this OW? Details please